There are different ways of seeing the concept of being fragile. Being fragile is a state on the edge of hope and it is about a sense of not knowing the way to go. And being more or less fragile defines partly the way you conduct hope, emotions and the way you end up deciding. And this is more intense and confusing in a time where humans are in part within a context of social and tech interaction. In a time of life style “Krisis”, (the etimologic keyword, from the greek, that gave origin to crisis) somehow a time driven by tech – Tech Time.

You and I live indeed in a tech time where machines, technology are part of daily life. Technology being it visible and invisible defines more and more the future of mankind, civilisations, development. And faster than in any time in history. With technology I mean mobile phones, computers, social networks such as Facebook, Google and so much others that are tools sometimes invisible in our lives but that are part of the way you now interact and manage the time with your peers, loved ones.

Though a very important say is that old solutions have to walk side by side with the new problems. There is no future without a foundation memory, a DNA written in the past. An origin of who you truly are. What made youu be what you are. And the present is in part a product of that learning, instinctive and adaptative intelligence. It is a simple and at the same time complex game of interaction with both the genes of the old you and the baby steps of the present and new you.

“Intelligence, as defined in standard dictionaries, has two rather different meanings. In its most familiar meaning, intelligence has to do with the individual’s ability to learn and reason. It is this meaning which underlies common psychometric notions such as intelligence testing, the intelligence quotient, and the like. In its less common meaning, intelligence has to do a body of information and knowledge. This second meaning is implicated in the titles of certain government organizations, such as the Central Intelligence Agency in the United States, and its British counterparts MI-5 and MI-6. Similarly, both meanings are invoked by the concept of social intelligence. As originally coined by E.L. Thorndike (1920), the term referred the person’s ability to understand and manage other people, and to engage in adaptive social interactions. More recently, however, Cantor and Kihlstrom (1987) redefined social intelligence to refer to the individual’s fund of knowledge about the social world.” John F. Kihlstrom and Nancy Cantor, Social Intelligence, http://socrates.berkeley.edu/~kihlstrm/social_intelligence.htm

Without any doubts the way you decide bares in it a lot of layers. An intrinsic definition of intelligence is attached to your action. Nothing is simple, a black or white as the stereotype says. The degrees of grey are endlessly and have in each layer countless rainbows. Decisions come in sum of these layers. The way you decide is partly neurological, social, instinctive, contextual, now technological. Thus it reflects in one hand what you in fact want and in the way you manage (or sometimes are managed by) all of these ingredients. Thought in the other hand it underlines the flashes of emotions of the unconscious machine that you have inside.

Every interaction has an emotional context and bears with it, along with what you are doing, feelings that somehow push you in a given direction. A moment where you decide something might and certainly is the result of a lot of previous moments.

And decision has to do with the balance with your paradigm identity. It deals with the way you ultimately accept yourself and with your handling of your own fragility. So the most powerful your identity is the better you will handle your fragility. The better you will construct the structure for the foundations of hope.

Some very old and important questions to repeat everyday are:

1. Who are you really? Not the social you but the real honest you.
2. What do you really need? Not what others tell you it is necessary, society or judgements somehow that decide or influence you.
3. How can you help yourself and the loved ones surrounding you with the right decisions?
4. Why are you afraid? Where did these fears came from?
5. What do you need to do to handle with that excessive fragility?

The right answers to these questions create a dynamic of advocacy intelligence that will defend you and will improve your mutual personal accountability. The more trust you build in the right values of who you are, the better you will deal with your sense of fragility and hope. Ultimately the more value you will end up releasing in your decisions. Thus you will not loose time with unnecessary fears. In this fashion your hope will always be there. Within yourself you know that the values that you identify yourself with are strong and will guide you through the seas of emotions. And this navigation of the emotional waves of fragility will create bigger hope and wealth.

So how to handle fragility, hope, emotions and decisions?
The whole definition of fragility and in the opposite side the antifragility lies in how you deal with the concept of social intelligence, and dependence. Things and people are in processes, sometimes in mutations. These processes comprehend dependence of people, circumstances. These processes bring irreversible consequences. Fragility, hope and emotions are the heart of decision. These key concepts are responsible for pumping blood throughout the blood vessels of life by repeated, rhythmic timely contractions. Finally what makes you and me take a given decision is precisely the best or worst management of the sum of all of these blood rhythmic contractions.

Do you wish to be great? Then begin by being. Do you desire to construct a vast and lofty fabric? Think first about the foundations of humility. The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation. Saint Augustine

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